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simplify your life.

when you truly love someone, it doesn’t matter what they think. it doesn’t matter what they did or what they do. it doesn’t matter what they say anymore. you love them forever, even as they come and go.

now, think about the person you love most. bring them to the front of your mind. do you love them no matter what? or are there 100 conditions on what they think and say and do and did? do they breathe weird or chew too loud? is there a story or joke they can’t ever stop telling? is it bothering you? or do you think you can actually bring yourself to love them as they are, as they were, and as the person they’re still becoming?

unconditional love is the cleanest love. and once you can love the person you love most without condition, everyone else is easy. all of a sudden, you can love your boss and your colleagues, and family and friends and neighbors. they don’t have to be any different from how they are in this moment. you can begin to have compassion for yourself through all the ways you continue to disappoint and fail to understand. this is how you take back your own nervous system.

you’ll find that people start to matter more even as they begin to matter less, the deeper and truer your love. your conditions and expectations are what keep you unfree. separation is anxiety. unity consciousness is simple; it’s just the one thing. nothing and no one is separate. what you want is real. and what you think you don’t want—that’s all part of it, too.