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where everybody lives.

your consciousness is a house where everybody lives. everyone you’ve ever been, everyone you’ve loved and anyone who’s ever hurt you lives in that house. your family lives there, too. even if you’ve just now built a new wing for them that you take care to avoid altogether.

people come into your life for a reason. and when they do, they take up a room in your consciousness. some of them (the ones you love and the ones you hate) are rooms you used to visit often. maybe checking in several times a day (or several times an hour)! but when it’s time to be done, to live and let live, you’ll find there are no evictions from this house. the house just has to get bigger. you gotta start adding levels. or move people into rooms a little further from center.

because everyone who arrives is merely a reflection. they’re showing you who you used to be, what you used to do (maybe over lifetimes), who you might become, and what you don’t want anymore. that your house has all these separate rooms is illusory. other people only come to remind you: “they are me.” they stay living with you because of your compassion and because it’s true.

here’s the thing: you just need the house big enough and rooms the right size. “letting people go” as chapters close, and as they help you heal and release past versions of yourself, means putting them somewhere good, trusting them to walk their paths now without you, and giving them enough space to exist outside your day-to-day.