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a good, hard look.

who you are when you are in love is your highest self. that’s who was ready to come through. and you only caught a glimpse because any more would have completely overwhelmed you. of course now you are sad and broken without the object of your love, but this healing period is not the real you.

the real you is your highest self. the one who was never broken and doesn’t need to be healed; they were just waiting to be revealed. love, the undistorted mirror, gave you a good, hard look at your own shining face and your own transformed energy. and now you know. now you know that the transformation isn’t a change, it’s a return. you are in temporary distress only because you’ll have to surrender everything else before you can finally fully embody the energy of your highest self, of your inner beloved.

ask yourself why you wouldn’t want to be this “in love” version of yourself all the time, whether or not there is an external object for that love. because people come and go. the same is for friends and for lovers. they have to go on their own journeys. you had one, and it continues even now; the map doesn’t stop drawing itself even as people leave you.

even “the one,” your forever person, must also have their journey. whether your lover is this person or not, we must be generous with them in that manner. let them live. let them be delayed in returning to you. let them be delayed in arriving in your life at all. time is not real. and one day, in the midst of healing your broken heart, the person who is supposed to “make it make sense” will arrive. that person is you.