101

newsflash.

you will feel powerless if you try to control that which you cannot control. the person you love the most: what if their life is a building collapse that you can’t seem to drag them out of? what if it’s a slow-moving car crash that you can’t stop from happening? what if you can’t protect or defend or stop them from doing what they’re doing? what if you can’t control other people? newsflash: you can’t control other people.

every time you try to make a person see or feel or run before they are ready, you’re not going to like it; the “right thing” is going to feel like the “wrong thing.” on top of surviving a car wreck, and having the airbags deploy inside of crumpled metal and machinery with them still in it, or being rudely awakened to the heartbreak of actual reality, they’re not going to like the pressure and judgment and impatience coming from you.

here is your real superpower: you can see it coming, you can witness it as it unfolds; you know what to do and how to guide people out of a disaster zone, but only when they are ready. they have to call for help, not you. when someone is trying to cook dinner in the fire, the blaring smoke alarm is just annoying. it’s part of the problem, not the solution.

your ability to hold steady in your truth and vision, as others live into theirs, that is your power. put it where it belongs; keep it with you. your power is a magic spell that works only inside your castle. you are powerless outside your own kingdom. all you can do is stand tall and bright to remind others of their own light. your boundaries are for you, not them.