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personal myth.

each day, you tell yourself a story. is it the right one?

who is the hero? is it you? what’s driving the plot? is it your body or your soul? are you rushing character development or do you allow the unfolding? is the sun always shining in scene? is the moon always full? or do you allow seasons in this story? are you putting everyone under the best lights? or are you saving budget for something else more important?

stories, like nature, demonstrate balance and reveal asymmetry. if we want men who can offer presence, and can protect and provide, we have to show them they are valued, protected, provided for and held, consistently, without them having to earn it, from when they are small. if we expect women to soften, connect, nurture and create life, we have to show them they are worthy of softness, connection, safety and nurture, without them having to perform or censor themselves, from when they are young.

when we don’t do these things, when we tell the kids they have permission to exist only under certain conditions, they act out the imbalance into adulthood. until it hurts enough to stop. until they can reclaim the personal myth and embody what was not provided at the start.